• PoPoP@lemm.ee
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    5 days ago

    I think it’s as weird and antisocial as the next guy to call women “females” but I also think it’s weird that it’s treated like not receiving approval from women is the worst possible thing that can happen to a man when implying that women need male approval is obviously sexist

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      Personally I think that using sexual desirability as a point of ridicule is pretty toxic regardless of who is doing it and it’s not going to help to solve the problem, but “not receiving approval from women” kind of is the worst possible thing that can happen for a lot of them, at least in their minds. The whole “men and females” thing has its roots in incel culture and they’re well known to obsess over the tiniest facets of their interactions with women to the point of nausea, looking for any excuse to condemn women for not being attracted to them. They see not receiving approval from women as the ultimate condemnation of not only women, but also themselves. It’s why people use it as an insult - it’s effective against them.

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        I really don’t think making this about incels makes sense and I’ll demonstrate why:

        Woman calls me unfuckable -> I’m an incel

        I call a woman unfuckable -> I’m an incel

        There’s little logical consistency around the topic and it’s kind of just become a loophole to cancel morality when it comes to attacking men. I’m really careful with my wording to avoid triggering this response because if I do, people stop processing what I’m saying and they start dogpiling.

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      idk, some incels will certainly act like not getting approval from women was the worst possible thing that could happen to them, and then go and do something much worse to others

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        yeah but this post isn’t about incels. posts like these shoot strays at all men

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          That’s how generalizations and language work. It’s ALWAYS implied that it’s not ALL of a group. Unless someone says “literally all men”, and then whatever that person is saying is wrong because there’s no way it’s literally all.

          So good news, is you’re not like that, it’s not about you.

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          They’re pretty much the only group I know of that uses female that way on purpose, but I suppose we could just throw in all misogynists and my comment would still apply

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            I think you’re not really getting what I’m saying. See my other comment:

            It’s not about that. It’s their choice of insult. Saying “people who voted for Trump are retarded” doesn’t make it not ableist just because you specified it’s about Trump voters. Catch my drift?

            Equating moral corruption to sexual undesirability is just stupid. It implies the inverse too, that sexually undesirable people are morally corrupt, which is actually a pretty huge problem in society. It also implies that men need validation from women which is just false.

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              Well, I think we can agree on one thing. I guess I don’t really get what you’re saying ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

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                I mean, I’ve been pretty clear… and nobody else is having trouble understanding what I’m trying to say. is it possible that on some level you kind of like, don’t want to understand?

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          While I agree, it specifically says “those men,” so I think the idea is that men who see women as wombs or genes or whatever should also expect to be viewed with the same lens

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            It’s not about that. It’s their choice of insult. Saying “people who voted for Trump are retarded” doesn’t make it not ableist just because you specified it’s about Trump voters. Catch my drift?

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              Ah I see what you’re saying, yeah agreed. I think I too quickly read your comment, cheers